The New Testament was written in Greek and the word used to connote love is one we are familiar with- agape. The conversation starts in 1 Corinthians 12 and ends in 1 Corinthians 14- from the gift of spiritual gifts to the gift of love. Paul reminds us to reflect on love as divinely generated within us. It doesn't come from us. It is a gift from God. God's generation of love and its fruits should become the standard we look up to.
The gift of speaking in tongues is useless if it is not generated out of love. The same principle applies to all the other gifts - prophecy, discernment, teaching, etc. It is love that gives meaning to all the things that we do. In the context of marriage, we must ask ourselves whether or not the things we do for our spouses are backed by love- whether they are big things or seemingly unimportant things.
We also need to look at the nature of love. We must learn to be patient with the people we love. We must learn to be kind and to be truthful. There are some attributes of love that are supposed to be 'eternal'. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love is indeed eternal. We must learn not to be envious, boastful, self-seeking, easily irritable, proud or rude. We cannot pick and choose which attributes we want to portray.
Love is more than just a feeling. It is an action word. Love is demonstrated by what we do, nor what we feel. This is why God sent his son to die for us. May his example stir us on to love one another like he loves us.